<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Get That Man]]></title><description><![CDATA[Unlock the Secrets to Attracting Your Ideal Partner]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 19:37:17 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Does He Let You Into the Parts That Matter?]]></title><description><![CDATA[There's a kind of access that's easy to give and tells you almost nothing. Weekend plans, regular texting, dinner reservations. None of that costs a man much, and a man who isn't building anything with you can give you all of it without it meaning he's building anything with you. The access that actually matters is the kind that's slightly more expensive. Has he introduced you to the people whose opinion of him genuinely matters, not just the friend he sees at the pub once a month. Has he...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/does-he-let-you-into-the-parts-that-matter</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c82</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 05:08:26 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_68cc73a2f11c468cbcd8aaeeba8aca53~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How Do You Know If He's Actually a Good One?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Most women come to me with a list of red flags. Ask anyone who's been dating a while and they'll rattle off warning signs without thinking, the love bombing, the breadcrumbing, the guy who only texts after 11pm. We've gotten very good at naming what to avoid. Nobody's built the opposite list. What does it actually look like when it's right, before you've fallen for him, before hindsight does the work for you? That gap matters more than the red flags do, because a list of what to avoid only...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/how-do-you-know-if-he-s-actually-a-good-one</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c81</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 05:05:47 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_2ac379bef69f41beb72ab2f88ab6e379~mv2_d_5616_3744_s_4_2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Right on Paper, Nothing in the Room]]></title><description><![CDATA[Casey and Brandon should have worked. Same values, same goals, same general timeline for how they wanted life to go. On every measurable category a matchmaking algorithm could score, they were a near-perfect match. They tried for two years, mostly because the spreadsheet kept saying yes even when nothing else did. There was no spark. Not at the start, not at month six when they assumed it would grow, not at month eighteen when they started to wonder if something was wrong with them rather...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/right-on-paper-nothing-in-the-room</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c7c</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 05:03:03 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_d034c9eeb53f4f6dbc5296f59a19bac8~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chemistry Isn't the Same Thing As a Future]]></title><description><![CDATA[Ryan and Sophie had the kind of connection people write songs about. Conversation that never ran dry, a physical pull neither of them could quite explain to friends without sounding ridiculous, the sense that they'd found something rare. Nobody who watched them together doubted that something real was happening. It ended anyway, and not because either of them did anything wrong. Ryan was building a startup that needed eighty-hour weeks for the foreseeable future, no negotiating that down,...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/chemistry-isn-t-the-same-thing-as-a-future</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c80</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 05:01:44 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/692f7d5e2c9648b0908cdea2bd4022f0.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Is He Walking Toward Something, or Just Not Leaving?]]></title><description><![CDATA[There's a specific kind of slow that confuses almost every woman I've coached on this, because two very different men can look identical from the outside for months at a time. One is moving carefully toward something he intends to build with you. The other is simply avoiding the decision to leave, because leaving requires effort and staying requires none. From your side of the table, both look like a man who isn't rushing things. Why slow isn't the signal you think it is We've been taught,...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/is-he-walking-toward-something-or-just-not-leaving</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c7e</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 04:59:58 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_66475d7bf8f241469aa6ee512712d66e~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Are You More Yourself With Him, or Less?]]></title><description><![CDATA[There's a question I'd ask before almost any other diagnostic, because it tends to cut through whatever else is confusing about a relationship. Forget whether you're happy in the moment, happiness fluctuates with circumstance and tells you less than people assume. Ask instead whether you're becoming more yourself over time, or less. Psychologists call the good version of this the Michelangelo Effect, the idea that in relationships where both people are genuinely flourishing, each person...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/are-you-more-yourself-with-him-or-less</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c7f</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 04:58:02 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_07012989a2b041798284340a03c894c0~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Spark Doesn't Fade. It Gets Worn Down.]]></title><description><![CDATA[Couples almost never describe the end of attraction as a single event. It's rarely a fight, rarely a betrayal. More often it's a slow erosion that nobody can point to a specific cause for, just a sense that something used to be there and now it isn't, with no clear moment where it left. John Gottman spent decades studying exactly this, and what he found wasn't dramatic. It was small. Every day, partners make what he calls bids for connection, a comment about their day, a hand reaching for the...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/the-spark-doesn-t-fade-it-gets-worn-down</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c7b</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 04:55:45 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_9771d20592e7475ebc3ccb557dcd4f19~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Ninety Day Rule]]></title><description><![CDATA[A woman asked me recently how long she should give a guy before deciding whether things were actually progressing. She'd been seeing him for five weeks and felt guilty for even wondering, like the question itself was some kind of betrayal of patience. Five weeks isn't enough information to decide anything. But it's also not the real question she was asking. What she actually wanted to know was how to stop relitigating the same doubt every Sunday night without ever resolving it either way. Why...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/the-ninety-day-rule</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c79</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 04:54:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_09111d6f982e42d78d3b1c799a4635ba~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Your Standards Aren't the Problem]]></title><description><![CDATA[I had a client, Marcus, who unintentionally ran an experiment most women would find useful if they ever heard about it. He dated two women back to back in the same year, with similar backgrounds, similar circumstances on paper, and similar starting chemistry.  The outcomes couldn't have been more different, and the difference had almost nothing to do with Marcus. One of them let things slide that bothered her, the late replies, the cancelled plans, the small disrespects that build up if...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/your-standards-aren-t-the-problem</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c78</guid><pubDate>Mon, 22 Jun 2026 23:34:44 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_59a923cd037b4bc49c063b72636ef169~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Relationship That Isn't One]]></title><description><![CDATA[There's a particular kind of confusion that doesn't have a clean name, so people borrow the word "situationship" and hope it does enough work. You see each other most weekends. You've met a few of his friends, but not the ones who matter. He's affectionate, attentive even, right up until the conversation turns toward anything resembling a future. Then it gets vague, fast. A client of mine, we'll call her Zoe, spent the better part of a year in exactly this with a guy named Alex. Good...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/the-relationship-that-isn-t-one</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a39c512106e96afab5f7c7a</guid><pubDate>Mon, 22 Jun 2026 23:33:02 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/ae40d9_158dacc0b1194126a3617021b0c2627d~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_955,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why You Can't Tell If He's In]]></title><description><![CDATA[Spoiler: you're not bad at reading men. You're just listening to the wrong half of him. You know the feeling. He texts good morning. He remembers the name of your coworker you mentioned once, three weeks ago. He asks when you're free this weekend, every weekend. Somewhere around week six you find yourself asking a friend the question women have been asking each other since the invention of the phone call: is he actually in this, or am I just convenient right now. I get asked some version of...]]></description><link>https://www.mattfitzsimmons.com/post/the-post-title-1</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68b5510251de103473a707d0</guid><pubDate>Mon, 01 Sep 2025 07:53:38 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/ae40d9_232006056581415b85253f6485fbe76b~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_768,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Matt Fitzsimmons</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>